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Tuesday, April 3, 2012

The Truth About Loneliness In Love

Some sociologists have found through researching loneliness that one in every three to four households is a single person household during the current century. Compare that to the 1950s when one in every 10 households was a single person dwelling, and you can see that loneliness is a bigger problem than ever before. Considering that people, who live alone, tend to have greater health problems and live shorter lifespans, and it's easy to see why loneliness is something not to be trifled with. Unfortunately, it is a problem that cannot really be prevented. Every person has a heart with the capacity to love, and that heart can provide much fulfillment, but it can also be broken, which brings one to the truth about loneliness in love.

Loneliness in love

Marriages today are ending in a much higher rate of divorce than they did in the 1950s. People are quick to take the divorce escape from a marriage contract, and while it may remove them from a failing relationship, it is a very painful process usually, and when one experiences it, they are less likely to forge ahead with a serious committed relationship in the future. If they do decide to, the rate of failure is much greater for second and third marriages. The closed off nature of the person, who experiences loneliness, clearly affects future relationships, and so love can truly be a double edged sword when it comes to finding fulfillment.

Love as cause and cure

Love is a strange creature in that it can be both the cause and the cure of one's loneliness. Just because one relationship fails does not mean the next one will, too. People often get freaked out by the statistics regarding the likelihood of divorce in second and third marriages because they fail to work on themselves before entering into another serious commitment. If one seeks help for their loneliness and depression, then the fear of commitment can actually be eradicated and the next relationship can be successful, happy and healthy. But most people usually seek the relationship as the cure, which it can never be so long as one isn't working on their issues.

Loneliness: is it really better to have loved and lost?

So that brings the question, is it really better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? Doubtful. People in successful relationships are generally more confident, happier, healthier and more successful professionally. Love is worth the risk, but in order for it to not ruin your life, you must be mindful of the issues that you have regarding commitment, and you must work on those issues before you step into a relationship that you are not ready for.

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